We are products of our desires, or what Joseph Campbell calls the
" the zeal of the organs for each other"
I was lucky enough to spend 10 years in the San Francisco Bay Area and consider it one of the most progressive areas in the world today. It is absolutely no coincidence that apple, google were formed there.
Our identity, and sexual identity in particular, is central to our being and how we operate in the world. We embark on many quests and gender is one such a quest.
But it should remain a personal pursuit and should not be a corporation's or our government's business who we go to bed with.
If a corporation or the government requires you to specify your gender identity this is the vulgar equivalent of it pulling your pants down to check on the shape and form of your genitalia.